***This is actually a post I wrote years ago but never posted. Since joining a new church I’ve met lots of curious people who have asked about our adoptions (which I love, ask away!), I have noticed an overwhelming amount of conversations that end with: but it’s so expensive. If there’s time, I always love sharing how God provided miraculously for each of our kiddos (none through a ten year savings plan by the way)…but if time is limited, I usually state the obvious- God LOVES adoption, because He LOVES kids and families and HE has lots of money. Ha! So…below is a short summary on this topic. ***
Why should I pay for your kid?
One of the biggest hurdles we had to conquer with our adoption is the money aspect. When we moved to IHOP, we were inundated with adoption news and statistics and most importantly- God’s heart for the orphans. But one big thing that I hadn’t seen much of previously, was fundraising for adoption.
Just so we’re clear, we hate asking for money…but from the very beginning of our adoption journey, we knew we needed to give people a chance to sow into this incredible plan of God’s. And by “this incredible plan” I mean, adoption- in general. We weren’t just “growing our family”; we were intentionally answering a prayer to end abortion and adopt a child. And the more we listened to people’s adoption stories, the more we were convinced that asking people to partner with us was the right decision. You see, not everyone is called to adopt- but I believe we are all called to “take care of the widows and orphans” (James 1:27) and that can be done in so many different ways…just one of which is giving a few bucks to someone who is going to adopt.
We raised funds by good old fashioned letters…and even though we did offend a few hearts, it was worth it. God wanted this plan to happen and He sent us thousands of dollars in a very short span of time. Josiah’s adoption was fully covered by the time we arrived in Florida to pick him up- Praise the Lord!
Recently I read a blog post of a stranger, who lives here in KC and is in the process of adopting…she explains this whole idea so well, I asked her if I could guest post her on my blog and thankfully, she agreed! (if you want to read more of her blog click here)
“Maybe you’re asking yourself, “What the heck, self? Why should I pay for somebody else’s kid? Nobody paid for my kid.” or some such. Let me try to help out.
One of the key elements you have to understand about adoption is the kid is already here. We are talking about a person, in utero or out of it, that has already joined our world and will live here, one way or another. Adoption is one way to provide that child a healthy, stable family.
Because it is so expensive, and because it is a mercy ministry, and because it is time sensitive, fundraising is extremely common, in churched and unchurched circles, among all income levels. Go take a spin around the web; it’s easy to find.
Fundraisers, and adoption, are about the child. It’s time sensitive, because by the time you are in the process, a baby is already on its way, or a child is already being passed through the system. Taking a 10 year break to save $30,000 extra is not really practical when it comes to adoption, it has to be done quickly.
Adoption is a ministry. It is a way that people add to their families, too, and that’s great, but ultimately it is an attempt to give a child a better life. That cause should move your heart. It moves the heart of God.
So, if you know of someone who is in the process of adopting, and you want to join with them and God in protecting the fatherless, then you have been given an opportunity, a door. That’s what it is. It’s a chance to be part of something bigger than yourself. Take it or leave it.”